My blog the Tiny Voice of Reason started as someplace I could put the
many forum posts I've made arguing for Gay Rights online. Then I
realised how some of the arguments I kept hearing struck close to home
for me so I began writing about how I grew up. Now I guess my blog is
both, trying to make others take a long hard look at what they are
doing, how they think, what they say, how they react and give them the
child's point of view. So, maybe my blog is really my way of finally
talking to my parents and family about how tortured I felt from all the
emotional and physical abuse.
I always wondered if I was the only one who really didn't care much
about the Presidential election, well, other than to hope that someone
who would be fair would win this time around. Everyone was watching the
points for Mr. Obama and I had my complete attention focused on
California and Proposition 8. I was devastated, as a parent and as that
abused child, when it went through. Proposition 8 to me is authorising
the highest form of child abuse.
If someone really sat down and looked at child abuse and how GLBT
children are treated that is exactly what it is. Emotional & Verbal
Abuse: telling any child to get out, they are not your child, they are
not worthy of your love, they must be "fixed" so you can love them,
they should have been aborted or died at birth, they are going to burn
in hell forever, no one loves them, no one can love them, they should
never be allowed to be happy, they should never be allowed to have love
and acceptance, they are disgusting, sick and unwanted. Sure sounds
like a severe case of Emotional & Verbal Child Abuse if you ask me.
This could be any child. Autistic, ADHD, ADD, Fibromyalgia, Cystic
Fibrosis, mentally or physically disabled, born with a physical birth
defect or deformity, GLBT, obese, overweight or morbidly obese,
mentally ill or any other thing that a parent thinks is just oh so
wrong. We could see the proof from all those good parents who dropped
off not only their babies but their tweens and teens in Nevada. From
the news articles of boys being raped by adult women that society
laughs off and shoves under a rug. From the news articles about
battered husbands that are swept under the rug and laughed out of
police stations. From the parents of GLBT teens who are kicked out of
homes, beaten, emotionally and/or verbally abused, killed, or commit
suicide. To the people in society who have the nerve to ask other
parents who do love their autistic, physically handicapped, or GLBT
child why didn't they get rid of them. They are children...and I'll
refrain from saying what I want to say at the end in polite company.
Everywhere I go people use that excuse that being gay is a choice and
hundreds of children then commit suicide every year. Year, after year,
after year, after year. Age 2 is when you know your gender identity,
age 2 is when you know the difference between boys and girls, and age 2
is when you know enough language to start understanding a little bit of
what adults are saying around you. Not all the words but the tone at
least. The disgust, and hate come through loud and clear. When you are
old enough to understand the words, their meaning and the adult
response and realise they are talking about you, well, that's
devastating. Then you look at all the adults around you and wonder if
they feel the same. As a child the one thing you need in order to
thrive is taken away and the adults have no idea or just don't care.
Your feeling of safety, acceptance and love has disappeared.
You don't have to always have to hit a child hard enough to bruise or
break bones in order to abuse them. I know this first hand. I wish
other adults would stop promoting child abuse by saying it's okay to
hurt and kill someone's child because they are GLBT, or Autistic, or
obese, or black, or an immigrant, or a girl, or a boy, or intelligent.
Promoting one type of abuse only promotes all forms of abuse. Abuse is
learned in childhood, even if you've never lifted a hand or voice to
abuse your child directly, you may have said it many times that abusing
others is okay. Abuse is abuse and it is never okay.
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