The Tiny Voice of Reason

Equal Opportunity Dater

Since I seem to be doing in depth thinking about everything these days I decided to take a closer look at who I find attractive. 

I realised during my previous post about falling prey to the opinions of others that I've done exactly that.  I've been labeled as the "white guy" lover; not that I think that's a bad thing.  *waggles eyebrows and leers*  lol  That's just someone's opinion on who I was seen out with.  I've met really nice guys of all races, the only reason I wasn't dating them were 1) I really wasn't interested in dating back then, 2) they were my buds,  3) they were involved with someone already or 4) not on the same page with our lives. 

You can't expect a nice guy to last long on the market.  Too bad most of the time it's a girl/guy who doesn't appreciate them that they end up dating while we sit back and go "Goddamn!  Foiled, again!".  I'm not very picky.  That translates to I don't slap the poster of who I think my ideal guy is over the guy I'm looking at.  My only requirement is that he must come equipped with a sense of humour and personal hygiene. Oh...and I'm really not into the "thug life" even though that's all good for other gals, just not this one.  I don't mean clotheswise, I mean true criminal activity.  Clothes don't make the man his actions do.

So, although I'm way off the market, I'll contend that I've been an equal opportunity dater or hanger-outer.  I only dated for a few months when I was 20...see...I wasn't very interested in dating.  I'm more of a long term relationship kind of gal.  My idea of dating is 5 years or so of being together.  A few months is hanging out.  lol

I'd say the majority of us are equal opportunity daters and I'm sure women of all races can agree that Shemar Moore, Yul Kwon, Mario Lopez, Sendhil Ramamurthy, and Wentworth Miller are all hot!  Now, if the personality and body matches up the way my guy's does.  Lookout world!  Those guys would have to come with a warning label.

Blog Evolution

My blog the Tiny Voice of Reason started as someplace I could put the many forum posts I've made arguing for Gay Rights online. Then I realised how some of the arguments I kept hearing struck close to home for me so I began writing about how I grew up. Now I guess my blog is both, trying to make others take a long hard look at what they are doing, how they think, what they say, how they react and give them the child's point of view. So, maybe my blog is really my way of finally talking to my parents and family about how tortured I felt from all the emotional and physical abuse.

I always wondered if I was the only one who really didn't care much about the Presidential election, well, other than to hope that someone who would be fair would win this time around. Everyone was watching the points for Mr. Obama and I had my complete attention focused on California and Proposition 8. I was devastated, as a parent and as that abused child, when it went through. Proposition 8 to me is authorising the highest form of child abuse.

If someone really sat down and looked at child abuse and how GLBT children are treated that is exactly what it is. Emotional & Verbal Abuse: telling any child to get out, they are not your child, they are not worthy of your love, they must be "fixed" so you can love them, they should have been aborted or died at birth, they are going to burn in hell forever, no one loves them, no one can love them, they should never be allowed to be happy, they should never be allowed to have love and acceptance, they are disgusting, sick and unwanted. Sure sounds like a severe case of Emotional & Verbal Child Abuse if you ask me.

This could be any child. Autistic, ADHD, ADD, Fibromyalgia, Cystic Fibrosis, mentally or physically disabled, born with a physical birth defect or deformity, GLBT, obese, overweight or morbidly obese, mentally ill or any other thing that a parent thinks is just oh so wrong. We could see the proof from all those good parents who dropped off not only their babies but their tweens and teens in Nevada. From the news articles of boys being raped by adult women that society laughs off and shoves under a rug. From the news articles about battered husbands that are swept under the rug and laughed out of police stations. From the parents of GLBT teens who are kicked out of homes, beaten, emotionally and/or verbally abused, killed, or commit suicide. To the people in society who have the nerve to ask other parents who do love their autistic, physically handicapped, or GLBT child why didn't they get rid of them. They are children...and I'll refrain from saying what I want to say at the end in polite company.

Everywhere I go people use that excuse that being gay is a choice and hundreds of children then commit suicide every year. Year, after year, after year, after year. Age 2 is when you know your gender identity, age 2 is when you know the difference between boys and girls, and age 2 is when you know enough language to start understanding a little bit of what adults are saying around you. Not all the words but the tone at least. The disgust, and hate come through loud and clear. When you are old enough to understand the words, their meaning and the adult response and realise they are talking about you, well, that's devastating. Then you look at all the adults around you and wonder if they feel the same. As a child the one thing you need in order to thrive is taken away and the adults have no idea or just don't care. Your feeling of safety, acceptance and love has disappeared.

You don't have to always have to hit a child hard enough to bruise or break bones in order to abuse them. I know this first hand. I wish other adults would stop promoting child abuse by saying it's okay to hurt and kill someone's child because they are GLBT, or Autistic, or obese, or black, or an immigrant, or a girl, or a boy, or intelligent. Promoting one type of abuse only promotes all forms of abuse. Abuse is learned in childhood, even if you've never lifted a hand or voice to abuse your child directly, you may have said it many times that abusing others is okay. Abuse is abuse and it is never okay.