Bisexuality: An Education

I recently posted an article written by Leslie Davis called What's the Beef w/Bisexuality?  I've heard responses to this article that are simply more stereotyping of bisexuals.  So here is my response to the comments.

Lets have an English class on the word Monogamous because that's what most bisexuals, gays and straights are.  Monogamy: the state or custom of being married/committed to one person at a time.  Whether it's social, sexual, or marital monogamy, being bisexual is as simple as that.  Yes, the dating pool is much bigger but you're only looking for one person to have an intimate committed relationship with.  Period.

No matter what sexual orientation you are, and sometimes age, you may not be looking for a commitment at a certain time in your life.   You're interested in having fun, meeting new people and enjoying life.  If you are straight, you date the opposite sex;  if you are gay you date the same sex; and if you are bi you date either sex.  I've seen both straight/gay men and women who go to clubs just to hook up and have sex for the night.  So how did only bisexuals become promiscuous? 

Everyone is potentially promiscuous, not one group regardless of age, gender, race, sexual orientation, ethnicity and disability.  Promiscuity is also in the eye of the beholder.  Someone can sleep with just 1 person and be called a slut because they had sex before marriage; while it may take sleeping with 100 to earn that label in another culture or that 100 may be revered in yet another culture.  This also differs by gender.  A woman has a better chance of being called a slut than a guy (gay, bi or straight) has of being called a man-whore.

If you are dating anyone the one thing both of you do is go into the relationship with the understanding that it is exclusive unless specified otherwise.  I'm not talking about a friends with benefits relationship that some non-committed people create.  I'm talking about a committed relationship where it's just the two of you.  It's the same as any other committed relationship and has nothing to do with sexual orientation.  Bisexual people are not fence sitters, or confused, or trying to cover bases to stay out of hell.  They just have no restrictions to committing to one person of either sex whom they love. 

Everyone has the potential to cheat.  That's a personal decision someone makes regardless again of age, gender, race, ethnicity or sexual orientation.  Cheating is a decision.  An immature decision but a decision all the same.  It's not a straight, gay, or bisexual who cheated; it's your partner.  The person.  The man or woman.  They made that decision instead of trying to effectively communicate and resolve the issue or simply just break off the relationship/marriage.  That's it in a nutshell.

So what's so hard to understand about someone being bisexual?  They love you, whomever you are.  They will commit to you, whomever you are.  Unless they are a totally immature S.O.B, they'll be faithful.  All being bisexual means is that you don't find loving or having an intimate relationship with anyone of either the opposite/same sex distasteful.  If you do, then you are either gay or straight.  Just remember, if you just find having a relationship with one specific person distasteful...you're sexual orientation is not in question... you just don't like that person. 

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